Life Events

Instructions for my next-of-kin and executors on my death.

All too often, church members do not leave instructions to their next-of-kin in the event of their death. Consequently, their relatives, friends or executors, who naturally want to do the best for the person they have lost, sometimes plan the funeral with a funeral arranger without consulting clergy or the church first, or, indeed, at all. The funeral can then be quite different to what the deceased would have wished. Sometimes funerals are arranged without any reference to the church, even though the deceased may have worshipped at a particular church for years.

It is wise to give clear indications of what you would wish before your last illness, and since no-one knows when that might be it’s good to do it sooner rather than later. Setting out clear guidance can avoid confusion or mistakes simply because "nobody knew”.

Making your wishes known in advance is also an act of kindness to those arranging a funeral at what is already a difficult time. It is also wise to ensure that your relatives, friends, and executors are made aware of these wishes during your lifetime.

If you would like a copy of this draft instruction please contact our Parish Administrator, Cathy Phillips. Contact Parish Administrator who will forward a copy to you.